Living Each Single Day

Hey, welcome to my little online space. I would say this is a blog of sorts, to help me sort out my thoughts. I also write about things going in my life with friends & family and being out and about in sunny Singapore. Life isn't easy, everyone knows that. While we are at it, don't forget to live life to the fullest :)

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Monday, February 23, 2015

Love Vigilantes

I was at the gym towards the tail end of my work out session and on the stair climber (which I've grown to love but can never do the full 20 minutes ;p) when I looked up to watch this tv set just above my head. It was a docu-travel showing an episode about the caste system in India and even in the modern day, is still pretty prevalent. 

You can google more about the caste system and how the distinction caused a lot of conflict and extreme prejudice. But this show explored one side of the effect the caste system has on the people. Normally you've heard about couples going through extreme resistance because of difference race, religion and social status but only in India, they have added another resistance which is the caste system. For instance, people from the lower caste system can't marry someone from higher up the system. 

But love being love, despite the circumstances, you can't just forget about it and move on when clearly, there's a strong emotional attachment to it. Worst part is, what if the people around you, including the people who are your own family members, refuse to give the blessings to your relationship. 

That is where a group of what I call as the "love vigilantes" come in and while I can't exactly describe the process in detail of how they volunteer their help to these couples in crisis, I applaud their tremendous effort, support and encouragement. This is not your regular volunteers. They are so experienced, that when they meet up with the couples after receiving anonymous calls from them, they know from that first meeting if they are genuinely a couple or not. Well, nowadays you can't really trust anybody who you don't know on the line.

The fact that why I wrote about this post is how touched I am that these volunteers actually put their life on the line for helping these desperate couples. These people are seen to be their only hope to get married and be together for life. In one scene, where the host followed, the place was being watched over by someone guarding with a rifle in his hand. It was indeed dangerous but they were so determined to help.

At one point, one of the volunteers, who has a family of his own back home, said that if he comes home to the wife and children, then he belongs to them. If not, he belongs to God. That is a very big sacrifice to make for people he hardly knew but merely wants to help because he believes these couples deserve the love that they have for each other, whatever the circumstances they are in and resistance they face.

Such a courageous man indeed, for him and his team of volunteers. The world may be unkind and filled with people who don't have an ounce of humanity in them. But there are vigilantes who will not question and will do their part without asking for return favours just because they feel like it's just something they have to do. 

Kudos to these people.



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Saturday, February 21, 2015

Lending a Helping Hand for a Kid's 1st Birthday

Time passes by so quickly and the surprise baby of a friend of mine, turns 1 today. Another friend and I tried our best, within our abilities, to help her as much as we can as we know she's struggling but being a mother, she wanted the best for her child and to have a successful 1st birthday for her young tot. 

Nowadays, as beautiful as the birthday sets up that we see on instagram based on themes, when I looked at the price list, my goodness...you need to set aside a few hundred dollars. Unless you have a lot of money to throw, I think a DIY birthday set up is good enough as long as the highlights of any birthday is there, which is an array of food and the cake of course.

We contributed financially for the cake and also in some of the goodies. I even made the guestbook for free although I used office supplies for the main papers and used my stash of supplies for the decor. Oh, and also the taxi fare because in the last hour, my friend couldn't get the car as planned as her brother wanted to use so we took 3 kinds of public transport just to get the cake to her place on time, lol. 

But it was worth it. Three of us shared the cake after the cake cutting because we were quite full. Earlier on, the two of them got very engrossed with the food which was a rare thing for my friend which only meant one thing; she was really hungry, haha.

I even caught up on life with her parents who went through and still is going through a health crisis. My parents went through the same thing, and I remember shuttling back and forth to the hospitals to visit on a daily basis. It's a really difficult period to go through. You know, with these old folks, when the minute you show the slightest bit of interest in their life, they opened up very fast to you.

I wish them the best of health and for the birthday boy, hope you grow up to be a kind young man who respects your mum and remember her for all the struggles and heartache she went through to bring you up. From the way her parents and siblings dote on him, he is growing up in a family full of love for him. And money can't buy that love.

Here are the pictures and erm...selfie..from the birthday party earlier on!
















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CNY 2015 & The God of Fortune

I love CNY, not so much for the festivity since I don't celebrate but my workplace is so kind with their generous oranges and ahem..$100 worth of NTUC vouchers! woohoo..here comes grocery shopping! That is like part and parcel of my life managing this small family of us and those vouchers come in so handy during times when when we're running low in cash or I need an extra help financially coping with the expenses. 

The generosity is overwhelming which makes it soooo painful for me to leave this workplace when the time comes, which I believe will be very soon since I'm already pursuing a diploma. To feel welcomed, even though I'm not Chinese, is overwhelming.

Speaking of generosity, I had also received an ang pao from a colleague of mine who was generous to give me $20! I didn't think it was necessary but she insisted and I had to take it but I hope to give her something back in kind. She needs money too so I feel bad on that too actually. 

This year, the God of Fortune comes from our office in the form of our own Vice Principal! Haha..he was so sporting! And funny as well because he asked if anyone else wanted to take photos before he took off the outfit and midway, said that all these photos would be chargeable and he would be sending an e-invoice soon. Well, whatever it is, hope he brings us all fortune! And he also gave my colleagues 4 golden numbers for them to buy. To paraphrase him previously,  'Which VP would be so nice to do this?!" LOL!!

Here we are taking the photos in glee with the 'God of Fortune' himself! Gosh, I look so 'big' in my oversized blouse, haha! But it's currently the only red top I have so yah, no choice!

The long weekend is going to come to an end soon..boohoo..but let's make good use of it!








 

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Friday, February 20, 2015

Miss Worth It

When you're watching Miss World and Miss Universe, and thinking if only I have half their beautfy, you're not alone. Or wait, probably it's just me, haha. God must have spent more time on them, but you know what, whatever. There's no time for sappy sad stories like boo hoo, I'm not pretty enough and nobody wants me. 

Truth is, if you look around you, chances are you won't see someone who look exactly like one of those Miss World or Miss Universe contestant. Sure, there will be one or two who seriously stand out but do you see the rest moping around because they're not beautiful enough? Like they deserve better than this?

Nope.

I used to think that I'm not  pretty enough or beautiful enough to clearly make an impression but is that all there is to it? You know what, we can make ourselves beautiful. We can start by taking good care of our skin, keep our hair healthy and shiny, have trimmed nails (often overlooked but who like looking at unkempt nails) and wear clothes that fit us well and make us look good. For ladies, it wouldn't hurt to draw on our eyebrows to 'shape' our face and put on a tinted or clear lip balm so we don't end up with cracked lips because that can be so un-sexy.

If these things seem like a hassle, like how I used to see myself as, but over time, these very basic things are the very things that help us to raise our confidence level by a notch. Oh yes, and telling ourselves that hey, we are beautiful and we are confident. In our mind, see our own self as someone worth it and special, and on that thought, smile more and do our own daily stuff with grace and confidence as though life is indeed beautiful.

People will naturally draw to you like bees to honey when you have a personality that is attractive without being all nasty or bitchy. Be more genuine in listening to other people and making it into a two way conversation, showing them that you care for them. It doesn't have to be someone special to us but it can simply be anybody. 

It's not true that when you're slimmer, you are more attractive. I've known people of all shapes and sizes who can easily make friends and so easy to get along with, it doesn't matter if they're chubby or thin. Really. You just feel comfortable being around them because they are generally nice to you, no matter what shortcomings you have.

If you still think size is still an issue and hampering your confidence level, don't worry because you're not alone. I am not petite myself and I'm still trying to lose those darn extra kilos ;p but I'm not going to feel down and out simply because I've not reached my ideal weight yet. That's silly. If you want to lose weight, do it because  you want to be healthier, just like how I've been planning it all this time whenever I hit the gym or go on on long walks, not because I want people to like me. If people are not that shallow, they will like you, no matter what size you are because you're worth it and like I said it before, you genuinely care about them too.

We may not be gracing the stage with all those Miss World or Miss Universe contestants but hey, the world's a stage. It's up to us to give our best performance yet as Miss Worth It.

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Thursday, February 19, 2015

My Fan Girl-ing Moments

Where can I sign up for this guy? LOL.

I am so glad the actor went from Devious Maid, although I can't argue about his shirtless pool scene, to being this werewolf who looks out for his people and pledging his true love of another species publicly.

And my God, if a guy were to kiss me, I want the kiss to be as gentle as the one he gives, in the two episodes I watched where he initiated the kiss. Oh, and also the look after the kiss with him cupping the face. Argh, kill me now!

Although most eps, he bears a serious look but in the last episode, he went through various emotions, from being overly concerned, to being nervous and then being all lovey dovey. 

Plus, he was in a tuxedo looking all daper and his wavy hair all slicked back. And in the wedding scene, he gave the biggest most cheerful happiest smile of all, after his eyes turned golden and he is officially a super werewolf.

Argh!! You think how can I not fall in love with this character? And I LOVE the writers for listening to us fans and giving us what we want. Yay to them!

Okay, fangirl-ing over for now.






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Love is Love & Something to Fight For

Many people would probably not know about this but I don't like to judge people because it's a real poor character to have. I know that it's easier said than done but whenever I catch myself doing so, I will refrain from saying unkind things. But in general, I think that everyone is entitled to live a life of their own which brings them true happiness, rather than condemning them of their lifestyle just because we don't agree to it. 

Hence why I'm pretty open when it comes to various types of relationships and instead of giving unkind judgments like they will probably not last or she's just after his money, they are probably much happier than us. Love is love and if they're happy, let them.

I was watching The Originals and while I loathe the antagonist with his witchcraft that's causing mayhem, the rest of the show is still watchable. As usual, I don't foresee watching this for a long time although the season is coming to an end very soon but I do enjoy moments where there's, yes, life lessons to come out of this show filled with vampires, werewolves and witches. Go figure.

The fact on how family is important and everything, whether by blood or not, preparing for battle for the sake of protecting your loved ones and that a true warrior never runs.

The last episode was a top notch and even though I initially think that the wedding is so unnecessary, but it was beautifully done and I understand that it's not just a wedding. It's a unification that she courageously partake in to protect her loved one and to empower her pack. She never felt the love of a family and to finally feel that she belongs somewhere and to be accepted by her guardian, who doesn't judge her but watch over her and her baby daughter.  

But then again, this is a supernatural drama and ANYTHING can happen, much like how the writers said in an interview, nothing lasts forever because we're talking about a show with wolves and vampires. These are the two species that can never get along although at certain points, they may seem to form an alliance. Oh, and in Aiden's case, to fall in love with one..hehe. Add in witchery and ta-dah, every episode, someone is sure to die. 

Speaking of Aiden (I'll do a separate post on him because he's that special), I love how the writers develop the characters to be of someone you dislike to someone you root for. At first, he was such a badass but over time, you learn that he's not doing this because he wanted to. He longed to be free and he was only acting over instructions with threat looming over him and his  kind. Then you realize, he isn't what he portrays himself to be but he's just someone wanting to be loved and being allies with people whom he could trust.

If there's one person whom he listens to and not argue over, it's Jackson, the Alpha Wolf who lives in the Bayou. His allegiance to him is so strong that he immediately changes his mind over his break up which he reluctantly initiated for the sake of protecting his loved one from harm. It rings true that you can never completely protect them no matter how much you try but if you truly loved someone, he or she will make the fight worth something to fight for. For that reason, he reconciled and sealed the relationship with handholding and a sweet and gentle kiss making the relationship public. 

To.Die.For.

It's very very nerve wrecking to watch the next couple of eps because I don't want them to hurt his pretty face, hehe. Yes, call me selfish.

On another note, I think love gives you this surreal feeling that you're special in his or her own world  and you don't give a damn about how others feel because in his or her eyes, YOU are special and that's good enough. I guess people in love will probably agree with me.

Don't you think? I can imagine someone like Aiden loving me and protecting me from harm.....but that's not gonna happen. At least for now.

I know my responsibilities right now is towards myself and my family. I read through my 'inspiration notebook' and re-read my motto of wanting this year to be the year of more. Therefore after resting for a few days after some intense studying, and today being the start of a long weekend thanks to the public hols and the following weekend, I've slowly started to get my life in order. I'm happy that it has been productive because I want to fight this battle against poverty for the sake of my family. And I can't fight this battle if I am not mentally prepared for it.

So, who are you fighting for?

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Sunday, February 15, 2015

Staying Focused & Get Going

In my previous post, I was writing about how I'm feeling so super clueless especially right after busting my ass studying but yet, now I don't know how to get back into the groove.  Then shortly after that post, I did what I have scheduled to do, and that is to clean my room and get ready for gym and yay, I accomplished them!

And to think I almost didn't go to the gym and feel like further vegging out in the library. Go figure.

If you're feeling like me at times, the best thing to do is to simply, do something and get going. The first step is always the hardest but do know that it will get easier and you will be thinking, why the hesitance.

But if we simply get going with no area of focus, the things that we have to do, seems like a huge burden or chore because we do not know what it will lead us to. Then, we will just give up and go back to our lifestyle of just wasting precious time away. And that focus has to be specific.

If I say, I want to earn more money, it's simply not going to inspire you and get you going. Knowing why you want to earn that extra money, for example to supplement the family income, to get the F1 tickets come September (I MUST watch it this year) and to clear personal debt.

It's not just pertaining to money, but life in general.

When I was studying for exams, I didn't have any focus and I felt very upset with myself because I didn't know what I was doing this for. To simply pass doesn't seem inspiring enough. So I got down to what grades I really want and with this, whenever I felt like I am going through dejected feelings, I tell myself, I gotta do this, I want to get an A for this paper. That helped me to pull through, read through the notes multiple times and get it inside my head as much as I can. All because my focus is now clearer.

Same thing as running my online shop. I'm not always inspired despite the endless 'hearts' on instagram and pinning on Pinterest, if I don't feel like it, it doesn't matter. But again, I must know what am I doing this for. I want to increase my emergency fund and supplement the family income and so on. And also, I want to increase my knowledge on paper crafting because I love making beautiful works and the thing to make my work stand out and get attention, is to become better and better at what I do.

So what makes you going and what are your areas of focus? The best way to get around this, is to write down somewhere and read them before you get your day going in order to be productive.

Good luck!

 

 



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Exams Over, My 2 Months Break & Financial Plans

As I'm typing this out, I'm not feeling good inside as in I'm not sick, but I feel like I'm feeling clueless and lethargic. I don't wish to have this feelings so hopefully, after I type out this blog post, I will feel much better because I get to let out these uneasy feelings.

Anyway, I guess I'm having this 'what should I do' feeling as for the last three or so weeks, I've been so super focused on exams, or at least trying to cram as much notes inside my head, lol. It was very tough I admit with the feelings of being so super stressed out simply because it was frustrating not to be able to remember a lot of things. During exams, I didn't remember everything but I know I've done my best and I just hope to get good grades for all the hard work I've put in. It's not just a matter of getting the cert and moving on to the next level. If can aim higher, why not.

Below is a picture of us after celebrating two of my classmates' birthday and another one were us, cramming for the accounting paper the next day. Now we're on our two months' study break, before rejoining in April.





But so glad it's over and now I'm trying to get my life back in order which explains why I'm feeling pretty clueless as in what should I be doing right now. I've been vegging out since yesterday although I did go out and eat because I deserve some 'me' time, of course with my brother tagging along. There are things to do, like working on my orders and cleaning my room, and these are at the top of my list. I'll get it done slowly but surely.

I'm also starting to plan the things that I want to do via my planner. It's been empty for the last two weeks because there's nothing else that I wanna do except to study. My life is so happening, lol.

Besides getting my life on track again, I also wish to stay in life financially. Funny thing is, I always spend more than $150 per month on buying things related to crafting as a form of 'investment' for my online business, which I think is justified. But I've planned on cutting down coz I think it's rather exorbitant and I've been struggling to keep the expenses down when the income coming in doesn't always match up to it, so much so I've stopped tracking because it's depressing.

Due to exams, and me not checking out the blogs for updates on the new arrivals, my spending has taken on a backseat. But I still need certain supplies for my orders, so I have to make the trips to get them and for the first time ever, I actually feel the pinch even though my first purchase, was only about $16 which is way way WAY below what I normally spend whenever I got my pay. I've since made another two trips but in total, I  only spend $40. I've grabbed so many items, like I usually do, make decisions but this time round the decision making was even more drastic, and cut down my expenses to $20 and below for each purchase.

I'm thinking now in line about what I already have versus what I really need to get. I got many things already which is when the two supplies stores had some major 40% off storewide discount going on during the December hols.

I am still going to stand by my personal financial quote from early this year which is to spend only on things which I truly love or truly need. With nothing in between, it has been helpful in a sense that plus minus, I still have quite a substantial amount that will probably *fingers crossed* last me until my next pay day. Of course, this is easier said than done but I believe it is do-able. Plus, I am also telling myself to never be poor again because it's one of the most unpleasant and uneasy feelings, not knowing if you are able to know if you can put food on the table on the next day, or afford to buy groceries for the family. I've also got my upcoming school fees to pay next month so it's something that is leaving me no other choice, but to be more careful with what I spend on.

I want to work on making more moolah via my online shop and this means, to NOT be feeling lazy when the orders come in and work around them asap by finding time for it. They say that there's enough money for everyone, it's just a matter of working hard and earning them.

Ok! Now I gotta clean my room and prepare to go to the gym. Wow, I practically put my life on hold because I didn't work out for last two weeks, lol. I feel so unhealthy especially after two days of eating fast food.

Enjoy the remaining of your Sunday!



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