Living Each Single Day

Hey, welcome to my little online space. I would say this is a blog of sorts, to help me sort out my thoughts. I also write about things going in my life with friends & family and being out and about in sunny Singapore. Life isn't easy, everyone knows that. While we are at it, don't forget to live life to the fullest :)

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Saturday, July 23, 2016

Sending My Brother to Pulau Tekong for his BMT

I've not seen  my brother for like two weeks and it feels like an empty void inside. Perhaps me being sick had something to do with that but I dunno, the void is definitely there. I know that it's worse for him as he has to go through his national service in an island across Singapore and missing his family as well. Thankfully, he's pretty resilient and he's coping well with the new friends that he made which he mentioned through one of his daily phone calls that they have been very helpful. Now my brother is like me, who leads a sheltered life thanks to our mum, but thankfully his resilience helps him to cope and he's also not afraid to ask for help, not like me.

Can't wait for this coming Friday because he will be making his first book out from the island. It's time to spend it with the family and just now, he could whatsapp me because he now finishes at 6.30pm and he sent several messages and we chatted awhile. He got his first pay as an NS man and although it wasn't the full amount as it was pro-rated. 

Anyway, here were the pictures from the last time we saw him when we accompanied him on the island. He said that he wants to treat us in a family restaurant although actually me and my mum were planning to treat him pizza instead. I'm really anything as long as I get to have my brother around, yay!! Going to see him in his army uniform for the first time :)))

Family picture in the ferry

Drizzling while we were on board the ferry

Reached the island where he will go through his BMT 
What's in store for me?
A quick introduction to the military equipments 

Taking his oath with the rest of the fellow NS men

Lunch for the NS men and their families. Yummy chicken rice

Obviously he skipped the veggies

Goodbye! :(

The headquarters

on the way back to Changi without him 

Last goodbye after our ferry back

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Saturday, July 16, 2016

My Fever was at 39.6 Deg Celcius!!!...

Few days ago, I really felt like dying and no, I'm not exaggerating. It began with constant coughing where my throat felt damn itchy and bottles of water eased no pain or slow down the coughing. By the time I got down the bus at the interchange, it had escalated into fever as well and I had to sit down because I didn't have the keys to my house and my mum was out with her friend. Worse thing, she wasn't picking up her calls!! So there I was sitting there, coughing my lungs out, rocking my body, coz I was so damn hot that I don't know if I could make it. Yes, I know it's very drama but it really felt awful.

One hour plus later, my mum finally contacted me and she was annoyed with me coz she already told me she left home late to meet her friend and now I want her back home. I said I had no choice coz I'm like literally dying here. Then I thought she would make it a fast one and asked me to buy some things home as I told her not to come to the shopping centre as she will definitely drag her time. When I entered the supermarket, my teeth was chattering badly but 10 minutes later, it quietened down but I was still feeling unwell. I just could not wait to get out of the freezing cold. 

By then my muscles started to ache already and each step was quite painful and I had to self motivate myself to take one step at a time aka not faint. It was good to get out of the cold when I went to the bus stop but when I reached home, there was another obstacle. My mum was still not back yet!!! And she told me she is on her way home in the taxi. oh my god.

And she would take another half an hour.


At this point of time, I regret not making a duplicate set of keys for myself. Serve me right.

So there I was sitting at the staircase with the things placed at my house door waiting patiently and achingly for my mum to come back. I started to rock my body to ease the pain and once I had to get up because my neighbour was coming down the staircase where I was sitting. I will be such an odd scene to see.

Thankfully, she didn't take half an hour. I was watching the lift door like a hawk while rocking my body. Then when we reached the door, my mum said she dropped the bag and had hastily picked up the items from the cab so she was petrified that the key was lost in the cab. I was about to panic and I helped her to dig her bag and thankfully, it didn't take long for me to find the key. The bed never felt so good when you're sick.

The fever started to escalate and I believed I even hallucinated where I can't properly sleep waking up every now and then. Even the panadol doesn't seem to work very well. I had to skip work the next day even though it was an important day for P1 Registration but I was really sick. My body felt hot all over and I felt so weak. I took a shower to get ready to go to the doctor but it started to rain so had no choice but to wait until mid afternoon. Sitting at the bus stop where the bus took forever to come was not good feeling, being in the cold bus didn't help either, like wherever I am, everything was uncomfortable including the walking steps to go to the clinic. By the time, I reached the clinic, I had to wait for half an hour because the system was down.

More waiting!! More unbearable pain!! At this point, I had to rely on my willpower to mentally block the pain. Finally, they called my number and I think I must have looked a mess by the time I reached the registration counter. I told them I had fever and she took my temperature. Before this, I never had my temperature taken so I was shocked when I saw she wrote that I was having fever at 39.6 deg celcius!!! That was so critical!!!

It's a miracle I haven't fainted yet. I was hoping they would give me special concession and not make me wait the usual 2 hours. At that point of time, I felt like I was going to cry but I held it all inside until I went to the seats outside the doctors' rooms. I couldn't keep my body steady and I continued doing the rocking  motion to ease the pain. I realised my number was going to be called soon but even then it took 20 minutes which was the longest 20 minutes of my life.

The doctor measured my temperature and it went down a bit but still stands at 39.0. He was worried that I would faint and asked if I want the nurse to administer the panadol to me. I said it's ok and he asked if I would be okay to go to the pharmacy to collect. I said I can make it. Then he gave me two disposable cloth to wet and apply on my forehead. I did that and it eased the fever a bit although for once, I couldn't sit inside the pharmacy because it was cold. I had to stand outside and watch for my number being called.

After I got the meds, I had no choice but to eat one of the pills so that I could at least stand the walking distance to the bus stop and the bus journey. For the next two days, my fever remained the same despite eating many of the pills including antibiotics and I was petrified that I had to come back which means taking blood test for dengue. I hate needles!! Oh, and hospitals!!

Thankfully, on the second day, towards early morning before I report for work, the fever started to come down. The fever doesn't completely disappear though but it's in check. It's the perpetual coughing from the inflamed throat that bothered me even today. I'm still feeling weak and I feel so useless like I want to do something productive but my body just wants to curl in bed. So this will be the ONLY productive thing I've done which is typing out this blog post.

I can tolerate flu but I can NEVER tolerate fever. I know there's worse sickness out there but in terms of common illness, fever to me is the worst. You feel like you just stop functioning with aching muscles every where and sleepless night.

Please wish me a speedy recovery.

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Monday, July 11, 2016

A Visit to the Coffee Bean at Marine Cove

My brother had stopped working for Coffee Bean and his last day was on last Tuesday and it was filled with memories for him from the good to the bad. I'm glad he has been in great company whichever outlet he's being posted. So far I didn't hear him complaining about the people he worked with but rather, the customer he encountered. I told him there are people from all walks of life and some of them expect more just because they're paying for it but doesn't mean they're right. But we cannot get too carried away with them because there are more nice and friendly customers than the nasty ones.

It has been a learning experience for him. So that day we went to Marine Cove which is actually at the East Coast beach although it was late for us to explore the beach. He specifically wanted to go to the Coffee Bean outlet which is the latest one to open and boast more items on its menu compared to the other outlets except for the Coffee Bean bistro at Marina Bay Sands.

I took a snapchat of what we ate but forgot to download the video so can't see here. But we took quite a number of selfies because the lighting was just good, haha. We had fish & chips and aglio olio pasta with prawns. A little pricey I would say, so I wouldn't recommend you go all the way just to eat them but I think it has a nice atmosphere. After that we had yoghurt which you can choose what toppings to add, just like llao llao though I still think llao llao is nicer. It's overall still nice though.

But we had to sit outside because all the seats inside were occupied. I feel that they should actually have more smaller seats so that more people can come and chill rather than those 4 seaters. And being located at the East Coast beach, definitely they will have more people. If on a Thursday night, it is already crowded, can't imagine over the weekend.

There's also other eateries at the Marine Cove including McDonald's which was crowded. It isn't the same one as the old one that had been a popular icon. There is no drive thru also but it boasted a different concept than other McDonald's much like the Coffee Bean. Again, finding a seat may be a problem unless you takeaway and eat along one of the benches at the beach if you don't feel like bringing food from home.

So that was our adventure last Thursday. Unfortunately, my brother who has been sick since morning, was in a much worse condition when we were in the bus. His fever shot up and he went home with a throbbing headache so we had to see the doctor the next day which was not the norm for him, as compared to him.

Then today he will be enlisted. So sad. I won't get to see him for two weeks. I really hope that he can adapt fast to the environment just like how he adapted to working for Coffee Bean.  All the best and I hope you come back safe and sound :(

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Friday, July 08, 2016

I Don't Want to be Broke Anymore

I saw this post on IG or Instagram about the Rock saying that he used to have just $7.00 in his wallet and he didn't let it get him by telling himself that that would be the last time ever that he would be broke. And look at where he stand now. It reminded me of back then towards the end of 2014 where I was like so broke and I even mentioned before that I did things I wasn't proud of and I was determined to get out that really bad financial situation as I was in a really bad shape. The following month when I had the bonus and then throughout the following year as well, I told myself that I will NEVER be dirt broke again.

I kept that promise as much as I can. Of course financially, there's ups and downs where I see my savings start to dwindle and I can't help that much but I still ensure I am not completely broke and that I do have some emergency stash. Sometimes I forget when I spend unnecessarily although I do a quick recap how much I have out of habit so that I have some moolah to fall back on if I make certain purchases. 

Another story I read recently also struck me about how a single mum of two children who are both young adults with one of them being autistic. Now she knows where she stand. She knows she is not well off even though she's working and that her son is earning some money as well when he is doing national service. From the last report written about her on her encounter with a bag stealer that got away with her last $50, she got some public donations which she was quick to add that she uses the money sparingly. She said for her poor family, having $100 is like having $500. It's big money to them.

For the break fast on that day when a news reporter came to her house, she was cooking Nasi Lemak which is usually eaten with sambal or grounded chilli with fish or chicken. But she didn't have fish or chicken because she said it's expensive to buy chicken in the market. Also, whatever is available to eat at home, they will eat even if it is a simple fare of rice, egg and black sauce. She said as long as they're full, that's what matters and also there are other people who are worse off than her even though she herself is suffering from a chronic kidney disease but she's not seeking treatment because she can't afford.

It makes me realise when I read the story where I stand too. I'm only human and I do make mistakes too but again I go back to my own promise of not wanting to be dirt poor or dead broke again. I just don't keep making the same mistakes again. If I want to get something, I must work hard to earn my keep by working harder at getting orders and not screwing up my orders and despite my rant in my previous post, I know I can't please everyone. But they are those who were happy with my service and I'm really happy when they give such positive comments because these make me go on. 

I am also inspired by other female entrepreneurs who work hard every single day to make their business a success. Even though they are already successful, they do not stop there. They keep at it knowing how tough it can be with a lot of competition out there and they up their game through collaborations and making their business stand out from others.

I also go back to why I started this side business which is to get a steady stream of additional money every week so that I can save some moolah and also to 'entertain' my mother's requests for slightly more expensive fruits like kiwi and dragon fruits because she said they're more healthier. Also, she doesn't cook every day so I also have to accede to her request to buy takeaway food and they can be such an expense killer.

So yes, I don't want to be broke anymore. I also know there's a limit to saving and not earning. So I also need to focus on both equations to keep it balanced so that I don't live a miserable life by scrutinising every expense. Those people who earn Birkins or LV bags, I don't judge them. They are still raking in the money through their business ventures so these are like reminders as well as to how far they've come in being successful. But they are also avid savers too because in this economy, nothing is stable with more and more people entering the various industries as long as money can be made in them.

If you're reading this and you're dead broke, tell yourself that this is the last time EVER that you will be broke and that from now on, you will save AND you will learn to earn more than you are right now. Good luck :)

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Tuesday, July 05, 2016

Running a Business on Passion is Not Enough

This is something I feel like someone should have told me in the first place, haha. But anyway, I told myself when I first started doing this side business that I should not be too emotional in a sense that I can't please everyone. Not everyone is going to be appreciative of what you're doing and there is ups and downs. Sometimes, more downs than ups but I shouldn't take it personal. So I tried my best to hold on to that notion but I'm only human. As part of customer service, I try to handle it tactfully and even though I sound like I'm a little cheesed off, I still remain tactful and end off with something like, thank you or thank you for your patience. Coz some people think their order is the only order that I am making and I really dislike rushed work because I feel like it's compromising on the quality.

Then there is this issue where I would have spent money, time and effort making the things and then either the customer disappear or they dislike what they see. And then it either stops there or they feel like they have no choice but take it. However, it's just beyond me to sell something to someone where they feel like they don't like it. I feel like it's not worth it, like I don't deserve their hard earned money, despite the fact that yes I did spend money on buying the materials and not forgetting the time too. 

But again, what I like or see as something that I think is nice, they think differently. If I were to do this full time, of course I will slowly 'die' if I let these things happen again and again. This is only a side business and I can imagine if your source of income mostly comes from these people, and then you have things to pay like rent for instance, of course you do what it takes to retain these customers and earn their dollars, of course doing ethically. 

Then there is this issue of reputation that if you deliver a subpar service, in the world of social media, this news can spread. Of course it may not always be your fault but do they really care. They can sugar coat their words for all you know, making you the guilty party. 

Honestly, sometimes I'm too tired and I still don't know how in the past 2 and a half years, I don't know how I managed to cope juggling with my studies, working and running this online shop. But what kept me going is how I see other young female entrepreneurs working so hard in reaching out to their customers, whether they're working as a team or on their own, travelling here and there, braving the crowd of people, hundreds of email inquiries, and so on and so forth. 

In other words,  you just keep going. Yes, passion can only take you so far but at the end of the day, you have to ask yourself if this is what you want. If yes, then you have to do what it takes to rise above the challenges and make this business something that you are proud to have. Perhaps it can help you achieve your dream home, dream vacation, further your studies, make sound investments and so on and so forth.

For myself, I want to be able to let it be my second source of income. I have yet to achieve reaching my dream monthly income of at least $500 but I sure will one day. Then I will accumulate my profits as savings so that I no longer havae to be so dependent on my pay from my full time job because it can only take me so far. Things in Singapore are not cheap. However, I am not greedy. If I can save bit by bit for rainy days, I'm still fine. My family is not well off and I'm fine with that. I just don't want to be dirt poor or completely broke. 

It's not all about money too. It's about finding yourself, finding what you love and working at it to keep your passion burning and not be overwhelmed by the high expectations that comes with every business that runs in the world. I know I can do this. I won't easily give up.

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